Therapy and counselling provide a safe, confidential and supportive environment in which to build on your strengths to create the changes you need. Hypnotherapy in which I also specialise, can be an additional way of promoting confidence and calmness.
For example, you may feel under stress, or have particular emotional or relationship issues you feel need sorting out. These may be affecting your confidence, mood, and ability to cope.
Sometimes we are the victim of our own belief system, or our past, that can blind us to other ways of looking at the issues. I can help you look at those from new perspectives.
The aim is for counselling to be a supportive place while we explore issues together and ways of addressing them.
It is also about coming to understand yourself better. so there is more clarity, greater self-acceptance and a better relationship with yourself.
It is natural, healthy and a positive step forward to seek help when you can’t sort things out on your own. Far from being a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength.
As well as my work with individuals I also do extensive work with couples.
Communication is the way we relate to people. This means if there are difficulties in communicating with each other there will be difficulties in the relationship as well. More positively, it means if you can improve one then the other should improve too.
Relationships go through stages. When we first meet someone we often go through the honeymoon stage where everything is wonderful. We have an image of each other that may be, to some extent, based on fantasy – we see what we want to see. As this stage passes then the fantasy wears off and we are faced with the reality of each other. This is the real test of the relationship.
If you are worried about your own relationship there are a few important questions you can ask yourself.
- When you talk to your partner do they seem not to ‘hear’ you or understand you – do you feel you’re hitting a brick wall?
- Does your talking together become repetitive – you go round and round in circles?
- After you’ve talked do you feel confused, let down, frustrated?
- Do you only talk for a few minutes before it turns into an argument?
- Are you afraid that if you bring up a certain subject things will get even worse?
- Are there some issues that are seldom if ever talked about but which you both know are there?
We may feel disappointed or angry that the other person is not what we thought they were. The relationship can never go back to the honeymoon stage, but with work and commitment it can, maybe, move on to a better, deeper, more real relationship.
Differences are normal. Being able to resolve them by really listening to each other, being able to negotiate and compromise are the tricky things with which we can need help.